Most new-bie speakers worry that they get anxious before a speaking gig.
They believe that experienced speakers do not get nervous.!
The truth is…
Experienced speakers get nervous just like everyone else;
They learn how to manage their nerves and use them to their advantage!
Deep breathing is your most powerful ally – your instant antidote to stage fear! Watch this video explaining Deep breathing here!
Yes, my lovely reader…their secret sauce is….
Not being ‘not nervous’…
But learning how to manage those nerves…
And even using those nerves to drive themselves into excitement!
If you have experienced nervousness on the stage, or may be even goofed up, you tend to replay the event in your head again and again!
The more you do that, the more your confidence goes down and try as you might, you find it harder to bounce back. 😒
But deep down you still have that unfulfilled desire to share your message because you know that what you have to say is important!
You still want to be seen and heard through your message.
Mark Twain so eloquently said…
“There are only two types of speakers in the world. 1. The nervous. 2. Liars.”
You’ve got to break this cycle of nervousness and anxiety….the best way to do it is to ‘Accept that anxiety is normal’!
Once we accept that anxiety is normal, it takes the pressure off us to overcome it.
The surprising reasons why most people get nervous about public speaking is because they do not:
1) B–R–E–A–T–H–E (Slow and deep; imagine that your tummy is like a balloon, breathe in to fill it with air and exhale – watch the corresponding video here: https://youtu.be/-gI9_HCUp6I)
2) Accept that nervousness is part of the game and therefore work with it, not against it! (There are specific coaching exercises that enable you to ‘work with’ fears. If someone has a crippling fear of public speaking, which we address with a different kind of coaching intervention.)
3) Understand that anxiety feels more than it looks: your audience may not even notice that you are nervous and there is no obvious need to tell them that you are.
If none of the above tools help, ask yourself this one final question:
4) What is the worst that can happen?
Seriously, what IS the worst that can happen on the stage and what does the ‘worst scenario’ mean in the larger scheme of things? Just think about it.
- Nerves: https://www.facebook.com/parul.banka.7/posts/1793504654045223
- What is the worst that can happen? https://www.facebook.com/parul.banka.7/posts/1793665974029091
- Fear Video: https://vimeo.com/258818526/338075b9e2
- Building confidence muscle in public speaking: https://vimeo.com/258828433/e2004e6f0a