“I am really excited about this project”, I chirped as I dunked the French fries in my hand in the pot of ketchup.
“What do you think?” I asked as I relished the deliciousness melt in my mouth. Like a little child I waited to be told how proud they were of me at having cracked this business deal.
“I don’t think that you should take up this project”, they said grimly. “Really?” Surely I was surprised. “But why?”
“There is too much risk and if you get it wrong, you will get into trouble. It is an ambitious project and chances of getting it wrong are high”. My friend spent the rest of the evening trying to dissuade me from picking up this project I just told them about. While I could clearly appreciate that they meant well, it was a very interesting dynamics to experience.
My lovely friend who was genuinely concerned about my well-being, was too scared for me – out of love. This got me thinking about how low a vibration or debilitating fear is! How it prevents us from moving forward! Yes, fear keeps us safe but more often than not it is the key reason why we settle for the mediocre instead of reaching our true potential.
I like how Abraham Hicks sums it up. She is talking about fear in terms of parenting but the core message is applicable everywhere.
Most parents, when they see children not terrorized by the things that terrorize them, they work very hard until they’ve finally got you terrorized. They teach you those irrational fears. Well-meaning, but they do just the same.
I invite you to explore what fears hold you back and which of those fears you pass on to the people you care about. We may have the best of intentions but if we operate from a space of fear, we will invariably do more harm than we’d like to admit.
P.S. I am looking forward to sharing updates on my project with my friend in near future. What the hell! How challenging can it be? I guess there is just one way to find out.